John is a middle-aged white American man, bespectacled, balding, and with a pot belly. He is of average height, standing at 5 feet 11. He is neither bad-looking nor good-looking. He does not have any advanced degrees, nor is he particularly wealthy.
Yet in the span of 10 years working in China as a field service engineer, he has had sex with 900 Chinese women, and none of them was a prostitute. In fact, in most cases, it was the women who were approaching him, asking him out, flirting with him, and some even to the extent of paying for his expense. It’s unthinkable in the west, and yet this is a very typical life for an ordinary white man in East Asia. Many more white men who are more gregarious than the typically shy and reserved engineer protagonist of our story have scored far more women than him in the decadent and lust-filled cities of China.
It’s not a competition. And this piece is neither an accusatory pamphlet nor a laudatory exordium. What is written below are mere statements of facts. Not fiction.
Ms. Li and her daughter Judy, Age: 40 and 19, Occupation: Store Manager and Saleswoman
John’s first two girlfriends were Ms. Li, a divorced single mother of 40, and her daughter “Judy” who was working as a saleswoman at the same local clothing store that her mom worked in. A couple months after Ms. Li and her daughter moved in with John, Judy had a few girlfriends over and they were in her room talking about boys. The mother eavesdropped and found out that that the daughter discussed her attraction to foreigners, and her “plan to find a laowai husband just like my mother’s.”
Instead of becoming angry, as other Chinese parents would react, Ms. Li found her daughter’s idea appealing. In the weeks afterward, the mother arranged “accidental encounters” between her daughter and John to create sexual tension. While John was showering, for instance, the mother asked the daughter to go in and grab toiletry items, thus exposing her to the full nudity of “your future husband”. In another instance, after the mother and John had sex, the mother asked the daughter to come in and give John full body massage. While doing the massage, the daughter was asked whether or not “your future American husband has the biggest you have ever seen.”
To celebrate John’s 40th birthday, Ms. Li took her daughter out for lingerie-shopping. After the birthday celebration, the daughter put on the lingerie her mom had brought, paraded around before John, and then Ms. Li locked her daughter and John inside the bedroom while she eavesdropped at the door.
Ms. Li heard loud moans and when the door finally opened again, her daughter came out with cum on her face. The mother asked her daughter “If it was as good as you had imagined,” and daughter smiled coyly without saying anything. Ms. Li then decided that “you should sleep with your future husband tonight” while she herself slept in her daughter’s bedroom.
Afterward, Ms. Li and her daughter came up with a system. Whenever one of them were having sex with John, the person would leave her panties on the doorknob so the other one knew not go in. On several occasions John had suggested that Ms. Li should watch as her daughter was having sex with him but the mother did not want cross the final boundary. During sex, though, John would critique and compare the mother and daughter’s sexual techniques, and made them compete with each other on who could pleasure him better.
Jia-Yi, Age: 25, Occupation: Business Associate
While John was still living with Ms. Li and her daughter, one day, as he was buying some grocery, he was stopped by a Chinese girl named Jia-Yi.
Jia-Yi was 25 years old business associate. She wore professional black mini skirt, and matching black stockings, and high heels. She had walked around the grocery store for several minutes before accosting John and asked:
“Excuse me, sir. Do you speak English?”
“Uhm, yes. Sure.”
“Can I practice my English with you?”
They continued talking. John found out she was a native of Shanghai; planned on going overseas in a couple of months for graduate school; and had ambitions to immigrate to America. They exchanged numbers and then went their separate ways. The next day Jia-Yi called again and asked John to meet for dinner.
As usual, John showered, shaved, groomed, and dressed professionally; told Ms. Li and Judy that he had a business meeting and went to the rendezvous with Jia-Yi.
After dinner, they strolled to the nearby lake, conversed in English about their lives, purpose in life, philosophy, and after nearly three hours of talking, John stared into Jia-Yi’s eyes and started kissing her. As they kissed, John caressed her legs, stomach and rested his hands under her breasts.
After making out, Jia-Yi asked John to go back to her place. They hailed down a taxi, which took 20 minutes to arrive at Jia-Yi’s two bedroom apartment. Once they were inside, John pushed Jia-Yi against the wall and started kissing her again. Then John turned her around, pressed her against the wall, kissing her neck, and then put his thumb in her mouth and told her to suck it, all in English.
Eventually they both climbed into bed. John grabbed her panties, ripped it off, and started playing with her clit, drawing circles around it and playing with her outer labia. Then Jia-Yi blurted out that she was a virgin. John responded: “I’m going to give you the most memorable night of your life.” He inserted two fingers into her pussy as he continued to play with her clit, and after a few minutes, he felt her legs contracting and her pussy was tightening on his fingers. Her whole body was contracting hard as well. From experience, John realized Jia-Yi had an orgasm.
After John came inside her, he taught her how to give blowjobs and though she did not have the technique, she was eager to learn. After cleaning his cock, John and Jia-Yi cuddled on bed and went to sleep together.
Later that evening Jia-Yi’s sister, Jia-Lin, came home and Jia-Yi introduced John to Jia-Yi as her boyfriend.
Jia-Lin and Jia Yi slept in two different rooms in the two bedroom apartment.
According to Jia-Yi, Jia-Lin is a pure, sweet, innocent virgin and though she has many suitors, she has yet to find a boyfriend to her liking.
Nami, Age: 35, Occupation: Waitress
While at work, John was told by an American colleague about a “Chinese MILF I was fucking.” She was 35 years old, divorced, worked as a waitress in Japan and had been recently deported back to China and was currently unemployed. She had a beautiful face, dyed blonde hair and porcelain, smooth white skin and was “very eager to meet foreigner men and leave China.”
The colleague gave John her contact information and told him to “fuck her. She enjoy being treated like a cheap whore.”
After some brief chatting, she quickly became very flirty and was asking if it was okay to send lewd pictures to John. John gracefully declined but they continued chatting. After a few more days of chatting, Nami invited John to come over to her place for dinner.
At dinner, the conversation turned sexual very quickly, and she described details of what she liked to do in bed. After dinner, with door closed, inside her tiny one bedroom apartment, Nami forcefully crashed her body into John’s, grabbing at his clothes, passionately kissing him. John responded by doing the same.
As usual, John slid two fingers inside her and felt her pussy was already wet. As he was playing with her pussy, John reached under her pillows and found a dildo underneath. Nami looked up at John as he was holding the dildo and examining it.
“Please fuck me before you use that on me.”
“What? You mean this?” John pointed to his penis.
“Yes.”
The second John slid his cock into her pussy, Nami grabbed his back and dug her nails into his skin. She pushed herself against John and was slamming her body on his. John took out his cock from her pussy, and shoved the dildo inside Nami’s pussy, to which she replied: “This doesn’t feel as good as you.”
“But you haven’t tried this yet.” John responded as he slid his cock into her ass. While John fucked her in the ass, he said, “Now you can tell your dom you just fucked a big white cock and he DP’ed you with your own dildo.”
Nami became very embarrassed. She realized that her dom, the colleague to John, had already told him everything about her, but her embarrassment was not enough to make her stop enjoying herself as she fell back on the bed, spread her legs as wide as she could, with the dildo sticking out of her pussy, and asked John to cum inside her.
Afterward, Nami asked John to take some pictures and video of her, which John could keep as souvenirs. Nami begged John to be her boyfriend and John refused.
Jia-Lin, Age: 22, Occupation: college student
A few weeks after their first sexual encounter, John and Jia-Yi started discussing plans to move in together, since John was staying at her place nearly everyday after work.
On an otherwise quotidian day, as usual, John went directly to Jia-Yi’s apartment after work. Jia-Yi had given him a copy of the key to her apartment. She was usually not at home until later so he went by Jia Yi’s sister’s room to say hi. Her bedroom door wasn’t fully closed, so he pushed it open to see if anyone were there. As it turned out, she was there and John ended up seeing more of her than he ever could have before.
Jia-Lin, the sister of Jia-Yi, was naked from the waist down, a red tank top she was wearing pulled all the way over her chest exposing her large, milky white breasts. She was laying on her back, her knees pulled up to her shoulders, and the soles of her feet nearly touching her butt. She had a tight grip on one of her breasts while the other hand was shoving a penis-shaped toy in and out of her pussy.
John stood there stunned. Flashbacks to his relationship with Ms. Li and her daughter resurfaced. He could not believe this was happening again.
He did not say anything as he entered her room. She didn’t see John as her eyes were closed. He watched as Jia-Lin pushed and pulled on the pink-colored dildo toy in and out of her pussy. It wasn’t until he was in the room that he heard the vibrating sound of her toy. Being in love with Jia-Yi, he regretted coming into the room, and knew that it was wrong for him to stand there and watch, but John was frozen on the spot, unable to move, enchanted by her beauty!
Jia-Lin opened her eyes and caught him standing there in the doorway and screamed, then told him to get out. John was snapped out of the trance and he started apologizing profusely as he shut the door behind and rushed off. His stomach was churning. Experience with Miss Li and Judy left a brand mark on his conscience which he did not wish to repeat.
About 20 minutes later, John heard foot steps approaching the living room and he found Jia-Lin standing there bare-foot in her pajamas. She told John that her sister would not come in until very late today and whether “if you would like to get something to eat. I will cook you dinner.” She did not make eye contact with John and John felt awkward for a while as well. Then she started apologizing for what happened earlier and John apologized back, saying that he should have knocked on the door first.
However, a week after the first very awkward and embarrassing encounter, the same thing happened again. John went to Jia-Yi’s home, was walking through the hallway right before Jia-Lin’s room, and immediately heard a familiar sound.
He paused there quietly, trying to listen, making sure that he was not hallucinating. He recognized that it was indeed Jia-Lin’s moaning. As he approached her room it got louder and accompanied with it was the familiar mechanical buzz. The reason he heard everything so loud this time, to his utter shock, is because Jia-Lin’s door was fully open. He did not want to get caught sneaking by so he tried to walk past her door without looking and to appear as normal as possible. The crazy part was, as he passed her door and was walking toward the living room, he heard Jia-Lin calling out. She did not scream as she did last time. Instead, she called out, “Hi John!” in soft, moaning voice.
John froze on the spot and was unsure if he should respond. He had to re-examine his whole belief system since coming to China. He was always been under the impression, as was told by his male Chinese colleagues, that Chinese girls are pure, innocent, virginal, conservative, traditional. It finally appeared to John that all that was just a facade, a masquerade to something deeply human and profoundly natural, even in its depravity.
Shaking, John said hi back. Jia-Lin moaned a few more times, then said, “Jia-Yi will be coming home late today. Dinner’s in the fridge if you are hungry and I will be out in a minute.”
The fantastical world about Chinese women that Chinese men have built has been disabused. He could not believe that what he thought was an pure, traditional Chinese girl could be talking to him about such normal things all the while continuing to masturbate. He stood there listening to her moans and then headed into Jia-Yi’s bedroom. From that night forward he could no longer stop thinking about Jia-Lin. He could not un-see what he had seen. He could not un-hear what he had heard.
A month later, he broke up with Jia-Yi and started dating Jia-Lin.
Jia-Lin became his third official Chinese girlfriend within a year of living in China, and this is not accounting for the numerous one-night-stands and casual swings that John had already had, including the many Chinese women who asked John to be their boyfriend and were rebuffed.
In the years that followed, John maintained multiple Chinese girlfriends at the same time and would swap them out for a fresh batch after a couple months. Some were virgins. Some had Chinese boyfriends. Some had Chinese husbands. Some were simple country girls. Some were daughters of wealthy businessmen and college professors. Jia-Lin and Jia-Yi, for instance, were the daughters of a full professor at Beijing University. Some enjoyed receiving anal sex. Some allowed John to videotape them. Some had masochistic kinks and other fetishes. Nearly none of them ever used a condom. In just the first 3 years, a total of 11 pregnant Chinese women had come to where he worked to look for him, telling everyone that “I’m John’s fiancee. I’m pregnant with his baby.” The original article in Chinese did not mention it, and likely censored the fact due to political reasons, though it would not be far-fetched to believe that many more Chinese women became single mothers and raised John’s children on their own. We can infer this from similar situations in Vietnam, Thailand, the Philippines, Korea, and Japan where vast quantities of local Asian women raised children they had with American soldiers stationed overseas.
Like seeing the other side of the moon, John, as a foreigner, has seen a side of Chinese women that Chinese men themselves were unaware. And John was not even unique in his experience as a western man in China.