Why are east asian women more submissive, more feminine, and more attractive?
That fact that east asian women are more submissive, more feminine, and more attractive as potential mating partners are so verisimilar and notionally pervasive that it has become politically incorrect to state this obvious fact. In fact, as someone who has lived in the United States for the last 10 years, I can say with certitude that any statement regarding any subject becomes factually true when the statement has become politically incorrect to be uttered. People in America think that they alone possess the freedom of speech unlike anyone else in the world, and yet it is in this country that just about any true statement is politically incorrect. So even though almost every single NBA basketball player is black, it is politically incorrect to assume that black people are good at basketball; even though much of the world wealth is controlled in 1% of the population, we shudder to proclaim the name of this group of people, and of course when the word is uttered, the utterer is immediately labeled an anti-semite. America is ridiculous, but I live in America; furthermore I live in an America-dominated world order, so I have no choice than to submit to its domination until my next conqueror arrives.
But in the meanwhile let’s strip bare the political mumbo jumbo and let’s ask ourselves truly why are asian women really more submissive and feminine.
There are several factors not the least of which has to do with race. East asiatic race has less sexual dimorphism. That means asian men and women are less biologically distinct as compared to men and women of another race. This is very important because it seems to me that western men tend to focus on east asian women only and they observe that while we are indeed submissive, they utterly fail to observe the same behavior in east asian men. For example, while it is indeed true that submissive asian women are highly prized as sexual mates for straight men, submissive asian men are similarly high prized as sexual mates for gay top men. Lesbian females seem also particularly interested in asian men. asian men in general look much more feminine compared to men of other races and they can be similarly submissive. This would obviously impact the role of an asian woman since by default an asian woman must be more submissive and more feminine than an asian man.
So what contributes to an asian woman’s submissive behavior and most feminine physique?
This is by no means an exhaustive list. I am not a scientist and this is just what I know and what I derived logically.
Diet: Rice as well as soy beans tend to have less protein and more estrogen, and if you are what you eat, then you will be more feminine in appearance because of the higher level of estrogen and less development of muscles. There are some debates as to whether or not it’s true … but look around, east asians, regardless of gender, are usually very feminine and usually shorter. If it’s not what you eat, then I don’t know what it is.
Culture: It certainly has to do with culture, i.e., Confucianism. Confucianism singlehandedly influenced not only China, but Japan, Korea as well as southeast asians. Confucianism is to Asia as Christianity is to Europe, and Confucian influence, whether good or bad, is enormous. However, the problem with Confucianism is that modern asians never quite grew out of it. For Christianity there are plenty of opponents since the 1500s from Martin Luther to Voltaire to Bertrand Russell. Fundamentally West’s gaining supremacy really stemmed from its departure from Christianity, and not because of Christianity. So the problem with Confucianism is that the Confucian set of beliefs has been so deeply rooted and ingrained for so long it had a corrosive effect on East Asia as a whole. Japan was the first one to escape from Confucianism starting with Meiji Restoration, though Japanese are not completely out of Confucianism. Actually the most dramatic departure from Confucianism came from within China, where during the Cultural Revolution Confucianism was denounced as reactionary and as the root of feudalism in China for the last 2000 years. Despite of Cultural Revolution’s violence, I suppose it was a good development. The Chinese today are always worried that their society has become too immoral, too materialistic, and too selfish. That’s not unlike the complaints we hear in the West, but then again it might not be a bad thing. However, Confucianism still remains a huge cultural imprint and one simply cannot ignore it.
So Confucianism teaches that subjects must obey rulers in a very strict hierarchy: sons obey fathers, fathers obey officials, lower officials obey higher officials, women obey husbands and fathers, etc. So you can see where this strict hierarchy of power might lead to problems. However, the concept that one must live in accordance to one’s social hierarchy has a profound psychological component to it and which is what made it so successful, that is, it felt “natural”. I use the word “natural” in the same sense as the Stoics used “natural”: according to Nature, or Human Nature, and Human Nature is rational. It therefore becomes natural for a woman who is lesser than a man to obey a man, a son to obey a father; and everyone obeys the Emperor, who was treated as a god, the supreme authority. Whether Confucianism is good or bad, I cannot judge; but it certainly has pre-established, as did Christianity and Islam, that a woman must submit to a man, and a subject must submit to the superior power. It is actually quite true that just about any major religion or culture regards female submission as natural.
On the other hand, Confucianism not only applies the strict social hierarchy to asian women, but to all asians and even to asian geopolitical powers. I suppose Confucianism is the psychological cause behind the way why east asians are so deferential to their American and European conquerors, including why Japan has no self respect when fawning over Americans. America is the most dominant country in the world, so those lesser asian nations all embrace America as the emperor of a divine entity. asians tend to worship America and treat Americans as kings and, to be honest, I don’t know which is worse, to be a rebelling race like the arabs who are independent and ferocious but poor and suffer from attacks on all sides, or to be an east asian who has no self respect, completely humiliated by Americans but live materialistically wealthy lives and envied by other more inferior races such as the hispanics, or blacks.
Hierarchy of race: And which now must carry us to the subject of the hierarchy of race of the world order. Asians, especially east asians, are NOT the most inferior race in the world. I think given our status in the world in terms of economy, soft power, etc., we should be ranked as beta, and other races are gamma, delta, epsilon, etc. The white race is the alpha race, and the alpha race dominates over all the other races, and east asians are the most beloved race by the alpha race because physically we resemble the white race the most in terms of skin tone, especially the Japanese (a lot of Japanese are very European looking compared to the Chinese and Korean, though Chinese are more complicated, because you have Chinese Mongols, Uighur, Chinese Turks, and some other Northern Chinese such as the Manchus that look very “Russian” in appearance because they are so near Central Asia). Furthermore east asians understand the role as the beta race, and we oblige to the demands of the alpha race. It certainly sounds humiliating, but only humiliating before the alpha race. In front of all other lesser races, the east asian race isn’t so bad. Just as there are different types of Jews, inferior Jews and superior Jews, so there are different types of asians, inferior asians and superior asians. So I think it is pretty rational that the following order would be true: Japanese as the most superior asiatic race, followed by Korean and Chinese, (the three of which comprise of East Asia) and after that the most inferior asian races are the southeast asians. A lot of the very white looking southeast asians are mixed blood with White or Chinese or Japanese, but when you look at the aboriginal southeast asians, you will realize why they are inferior.
Feminism: You will be surprised how many asian women actually think White women are the prettiest women in the world, and how many asian men actually secretly fetishize over white women. Remember the alpha race sets the standard of beauty, and certainly white women represent the standard of what it means to be beautiful. But the problem is that feminism causes white women to resent being women, and the first time feminism started, western men looked to Russia to look for brides who are submissive and feminine. It was not until the 1980s that western men started to marry asian women.
Personally I think feminism is completely wrong, and I can’t tolerate those feminists. Contrary to popular beliefs, not all women are into feminism. Feminism, in my opinion, will lead to unhappiness, depression and lonely lives, and no one need to tell the successful modern feminist white women those things, because they live their lives and they will die miserable bitches who hate their own gender. I have tried feminism when I was in college, and I realized that feminism just filled me with resentment and made me an angry shrew. After that I decided to never try feminism again.
Now, back to what I was talking about. Being more feminine and submissive is therefore measured in relation to the white women. Whereas most east asian women are still comfortable in their natural roles as women, it just appears that we are more submissive and more feminine, but it’s only because white women started to “unsex” themselves. Most asian women are actually very insecure about themselves and they are constantly worried that they are not as pretty as white girls or as civilized as the west.
I am not saying there is no feminism in East Asia. There is, but the funny thing is that most east asian women think they are revolting against patriarchy by marrying white men and they end up being treated as the subservient china dolls that they rebelled against. It’s actually quite hilarious. I will address the asian female-white male coupling phenomenon later on.
A misconception: Yellow fever does NOT exist. According to Columbia professor of economics Ray Fishman, a white male’s dating preference for asian females does not exist at all; on the other hand, it is the asian female who is preferential in mating with white men.
I have been a very confused—some might say very conflicted—girl ever since I can remember and I have always lived in a fantasy world of my own making.
I was born in Japan, my mother is Chinese and my father is Japanese, and my father's mother or my grandmother was German Dutch, and I came to the United States as a teenager and lived and went to school in Maryland, and worked in New York.
I lived in fantasy worlds since I was a teenager and I have always done so, sometimes so deep in my own fantasy I forgot my own identity. I no longer knew who I am. Physically I look more European than asian. My father is of mixed heritage—he has white blond hair, but he also has some distinctly Japanese features. On the other hand my features mostly resembled my grandmother, who was a full blooded European woman. Which was not something that really bothered me. Actually most modern Japanese look very European compared to the rest of asians.
My father was a sadist, and my mother, on the other hand, was, in my opinion, a masochist with no self respect. Growing up, seeing my father beating my mother was almost as frequent as having dinner, and when not beating her, she was constantly being humiliated and degraded, like having to serve dinner to him naked on her knees or being tied to an utility pole only in her panties during the winter. At first I believed my mother was a victim, a unfortunate human being in the hands of a cruel evil man, but as I grew older I realized that it was my mother who enjoyed being treated this way. The initial realization made me feel she was a disgusting, perverted, sick person, but as I grew older I began to have the almost identical sexual fantasies that my mother lived and experienced through. I began to think that my mother was the luckiest woman on earth since apparently she had found a man who understood her desires and could give them to her.
My dad studied and worked in America before, and during that period he desperately wanted to marry a white woman, and vehemently pursued several white women, but was unsuccessful. At the same time Japanese women were unwilling to marry him. Maybe because just like him they were looking to marry into the white race, or maybe because he had sadistic tendencies. Out of options he settled to look for a Chinese woman. Statistically, marriages between Chinese women and Japanese men have been quite common, and I personally knew quite a few couples just like my mother and father. Even here in America I knew several Chinese women who had Japanese boyfriends and those women were actually quite proud of having superior Japanese men as boyfriends. Japanese in general look much more European compared to other asians and I suspect it was the putative European appearance that attracts other asian women. Of course Japanese are not Europeans, no matter how much we try to become European, just as Jews will never be fully accepted as White Christians. I think Jews and Japanese have a lot in common. We were both persecuted by Europeans, the Jews by Germans, and Japanese by Americans, yet we both come to love our white Masters. Jews weren't officially considered white until very recently, and I think as time progresses eventually Japanese will be categorized as white in the future, though Jews and Japanese will always know that they are still inferior to their Nordic Masters. But as always the Jews will be Masters over the Arabs and the Japanese will be Masters over the rest of Asia. There is no other meaning to life, other than the degree of domination.
I had an older sister who looked fully asian, as opposed to me who looked much more European. And ever since childhood I have always known for a fact that I was treated better by everyone else because of my distinctly European appearance. In school classmates would be hesitant to tease me because they always thought my father might be an American or an European man even though they knew my mother was Chinese but somehow they still were afraid of me solely because of my European appearance. The thing was that in Japanese naming system, my mother's last name automatically gets attached to mine, so for example, my name in Japanese would actually be "Suzuki Liu Jennifer", because my mother's maiden name is Liu; this way everyone would instantly know my mother is Chinese. On the other hand my sister was bullied almost everyday by upper classmates because she looked very Chinese. They made fun of her hair and clothes and told her that she looked like a Chinese pig and I had seen boys pulling down her pants and laughing at her for having a "Chinese vagina". I was a very young girl back then and I felt ashamed of having her as a sister so in school I didn't talk to her at all. When I was 12 years old, she committed suicide by hanging herself in her closet. I know this because I was the one who discovered her body. My parents would have never told me about her death if I did not saw her dead body by myself. And ever since her death a dark cloud formed over my head and throughout my teenager years I was constantly harrowed by thoughts of suicide. It was not until I was much older that I learned suicide is infectious and that had been why I was constantly thinking about suicide. The realization made me try not to think too much about death, but no matter how much I try I can never get her image out of my head. Sometimes I feel she still haunts me because I didn't talk to her in school.
My parents divorced when I was 14 and I went to live with my mom in China for two years. Contrary to popular beliefs, I had never experienced any form of racism or discrimination against me when I was living in China. Most people assumed that I was an European girl and the aura of being European seemed to make me inapproachable, like the shield of Athena covering me from head to toe. Even when I was in school, when classmates would know my father was Japanese because of my last name, I had never really felt any discrimination, though I did feel they were kind of afraid of me. I had never realized how much being White meant until I was in America: the symbol of power, domination, and superiority that being White implies. Being White is being the entelechy of all that is beautiful, good and righteous. Which is strange because my nationality still is, in actuality, Japanese and as I grew older I started to look more asian. My hair has gotten completely dark and my looks started to resemble my mother's. I used to have very light-colored hair, but I just felt fortunate that I do not look fully asian like my sister was.
When I saw this image [of a naked asian woman kneeling next to a black furred dog] in a Japanese SM magazine a few days ago, all of a sudden I remembered seeing my mother in a similar position when I was maybe just 5 or 6 years old. It was not a pleasant experience; it was an extremely scary and traumatic experience, and growing up I heard constant moaning and muffled screams coming from my parents' bedroom. Every evening was a nightmare to fall asleep. But knowing that many asian women were treated the same way as my mother had been treated somehow made me feel better about my own family. At least my parents were not as weird as they seemed, and while growing up I had gradually come to realize that many asian girls have the same masochistic tendencies as I do, but many were just very shy and wouldn't admit their secrets. So it seems there are many masochistic asian women out there who thrives on been humiliated and degraded just like the girl in this image; I don't know why but this image made me feel kind of normal. I have lived in the States for nearly ten years now and I have not talked to my parents, who had divorced, for several years, especially to my mother whom I had some very severe arguments with over the years, especially when she remarried after she went back to China. I was more fond of my father though I haven't really talked to him that much either because he too had remarried. Despite all the mean things I had said about my dad, he was always very gentle with me and never beat me. He beat my sister and my mother but never me and I suspect he was much more gentle with me because of my more European looks. I felt their divorce was a punishment for me, as if they had abandoned me and I never felt comfortable with either of them or their new spouses, whether it be in China or in Japan. My mother's new husband was a very cruel and domineering white man living in China and he never treated me with the same special treatment I received from my dad. And I remember one time when I went out with him people on the street mistook me for his wife and I felt so disgusted I never wanted to go out with him again and then he would yell at me and yell at my mom. I am glad to have gotten out of there. And my dad ... well let's just say I couldn't bear to coexist with his new wife either. The last time we talked was already 3 years ago. This image had brought back so many long forgotten yearnings.
I miss my sister and my parents.
The memory of my sister and my parents started to fade away, like wavering forms they passed before my clouded sight; their images have become a blur rise about me out of mist and cloud; their faces, and their figures have become shades of phantoms; I wanted to hold you close to me in that blessed fleeting moment when you reappeared to me in my dreams. If only I possessed the strength to draw you near. I wanted to forever remember you—you bear the images of happy days; your airy smiles still stir youthful tremors in my breast—but my memory faltered. It would have been simpler if I were already dead. I would never be seized again by those long forgotten yearnings. I shuddered at those thoughts; and a tear draws other tears.
Crying is my only form of release; through crying I am channeled to the solemn and silent world of spirits; crying is my whispered prayer that lingers in a vagrant tone. I have no one to talk to. I live in solitary confinement. I have been driven to madness even though physically I stay put.
My life—full of dolor, pain and suffering. Sometimes I wish I could end it. The only reason I continue to live is for otherwise I lack the courage to carry out that final act, to take me beyond and step into the unknown. It is so much better to have been never born at all, or at least to die an immediate death. How sweet and wonderful death would be. My dear Aya, I am so very sorry! A vast space of nothingness in the empty universe fills my heart. Everyday of my life I live in terror because of you.
A family dog
Growing up, I always felt lonely. My family dog was my only companion. He was a slightly larger than a medium sized dog, with grey and dark fur, and a nozzle that resembled a wolf. He was so cute, so adorable, and he was my only friend. I often played with him in my desperate attempts to communicate with another living being, like Madame Bovary sitting by her fire place in a melancholic longing for escape. I want out!, out of this nonchalant prison of thoughts, out of this cruel alienated society, out of these mind forged manacles whose clanking I hear like looming madness; the marks of domestication on their faces, marks of psychological slavery, marks of intellectual death; they are mere automatons, inanimate objects, so lifeless like straw men, hollow men, stuffed men. I can't bare to look at those miserable beings' faces. In a domesticated dog I see more humanity than the entire humanity. If only my family dog can take me away! And I will elope with him to a happy place, where there is no more sorrow, no more dread, no more cold metallic prison walls of the mind.
My family dog was my only friend, and he was my only confidante. To him I entrusted all my deepest secrets. Sometimes I wished I was a dog: no more worries, no more sadness, no more consciousness, no more thoughts, just the need to satisfy my most basic instincts, lying by my owner's feet, worshiping him and completely dependent on him.
Sometimes I wish I could have another dog just like the family dog I used to have in Japan. And he will be my husband. I will belong to him. I will be his bitch. I will obey him, crawl under his belly, gently caress his furs with my soft hands, and please him like I would please my husband. And he will be my beast and I will be his beauty. Albeit he will be a gentle beast, always so obedient to me, and yet always so much more aggressive, and animalistic; he will protect me from harm, with his sharp fangs and naturally endowed muscles for chasing down his prey; and yet he will honor me and obey me like a lover would. He will never be jealous, never be angry, as long as he is fed and watered. He will be my best friend.
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Interesting post. This is coming from an Asian male.
Your story is heartbreaking. I know a place where there are people who want to help, if you ever decide you need it: http://www.hruth.org
How people treat you largely depends on self esteems. People will respect you if you’re honest, hardworking and full of self esteems. Seems to me you are too much trapped in so-called superior or inferior race thing. probably it’s because your pathetic childhood. But you can get rid of it and live a better life. I’m a pure Chinese and I’m proud of being a Chinese.
Very insightful for a Black Male who hopes to engage an Asian woman. Thanks